Finding that tricky balance

"God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well." --  Voltaire

"God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well." --  Voltaire

So my birthday is in a couple of days and I am making the time to take stock of my personal goals.  I am awesome at setting business goals and crushing them, but I am truly lousy at making personal time to relax, I call it self love.

I recently started a bullet journal with the aim of changing some habits with the hope of creating some new ones. If you don't know what a bullet journal is look here.  What I rapidly noticed is that unless I scheduled daily self love time, I didn't take any which tended to make me cranky and work slower.  I am a data geek and this is data geek fun.  So now, I schedule daily self love, that could be anything. I don't dictate what that must be, but if it feels relaxing and makes me happy, then I define it as self love.  My two favorites are to take a book (novel!)  to my local coffee shop to read before it is time to tutor.  The other is a double whammy as it counts as self love AND exercise!  I love to take my dogs for walks in the local park, especially around this one section with fountains. These walks never fail to make me feel like I am in Europe on vacation.

But though I am getting better at the tiny self love, the bigger must be planned in advance self love I truly, truly suck at. Being a business owner is a constant struggle and juggle. As I am also a fulltime artist, I just double the juggle fun.  So I have to make lists of what I want to make sure to do this coming searon so I don't miss out.  That's what the picture i posted above is all about.  I need to get back into my 3x a week gym routine. I slacked off this summer and may clothes are snug as a result. Sooo, that is number one on my list.  Notice numbe two.  It's a bit of a self love.  I used to get montly massages in Chicago and stopped the practice when I moved. i will work more efficiently as well as benefit from longer workouts if I am not in pain. Right?! So monthly massages goes back on the list. And it is fall. So what are some fall, wintery things I want to do.  i want to try ice skating again. I havne't been since my daughter was in third or fourth grade. She is 29 now. St. Louis is blessed with several fun outdoor rinks. My neighbor and I were talking about his love for ice hockey. I mentioned that it had been a long time since I had skated, he offered to take me and promised to not let me fall. He's 6. What a charmer, so sweet.  So yes, I said, I would take him up on his offer.  And I normally haaaaate winter.  But this year, I am determined to embrace it.  If it snows I will be taking a walk in a local state park to enjoy nature at her starkest and most glittery moment.  

So finding the balance between work and personal life is tricky. If you have some tips to share. Please post them in the comments. I'd love to know. For me it's bullet journals to find your strengths and weaknesses and quarterly seasonal goals.